15 Reasons to Question Your Relationship with Alcohol

August 12, 2021

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Yes, you can be sober and STILL have this much fun!

Drinking is up all over the world right now, and it concerns me. Not because I’m sober and want to convert people, but because as a culture we don’t talk about the ways alcohol negatively impacts our mental health.

Instead we often say, some people are alcoholics and have problems and others don’t. It’s so black and white and protects us from having to honestly assess our behaviors.

You do not have to be an “alcoholic” to stop drinking.

You don’t even have to have meet any criteria on this list other than YOU WANT TO. Or want to improve your health.

Have you ever wondered: What could I gain if I stopped drinking?

If you’ve thought about your relationship with drinking, been longing to feel better, reduce stress and deepen your relationship with yourself and others… you may be sober curious!

Here are 15 reasons you may want to question your relationship with alcohol…

1. You WANT to

2. You’re sick of being hungover

3. You’ve started drinking alone

4. It’s negatively impacting your relationships

5. You’re known as the “fun one” in your friend group (when you drink)

6. Drinking no longer feels worth it

7. It’s negatively impacting your performance at work

8. You often tell yourself “I’m never drinking again”

9. You want to live a life you don’t need to escape

10. You wake up with anxiety and shame the day after a night out drinking

11. You’ve started adjusting your goals and values to fit your drinking habits

12. You have to drink more than you’d like to in order to get the same affect

13. You use it to cope with your emotions or anxiety

14. People have told you they’re concerned

15. Your entire social life revolves around drinking

There’s no right or wrong with this list, I’m not saying YOU HAVE to do anything if you meet criteria on this list, it’s just a space to get curious.

When I first started exploring sobriety, I was (and still am!) so grateful for the many leaders of the sober curious movement and their openness about their experiences—which is a big part of why I chose to be open about my sober lifestyle, how I got here, and what it looks like.

All My Love,


  1. Nicole Thatcher says:

    Loving your book! I live right outside Philly can I try therapy with you or anything with you to get me out of this gray area drinking?

    • Amanda White says:

      Hi Nicole! I am not currently accepting new clients right now but I have quite a few therapists who specialize in this that work for me! Check out our website at

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